As a reader and healer, I personally feel it to be of great importance to focus on the person who wants a consultation with me, from start to finish. What do I mean by that? Unfortunately, I myself have paid good money for a consultation with a reader, only to find that the attention shifts onto them, when they start to go on about how their lives are and what the cards mean for them, making comparisons to my current scenario.
Excuse me? I don't pay to hear about your life! I pay to be advised, in the best way possible, about what the cards mean for me at this point in time, and what I can do with this information. When a reader wants to go down that road, I can't help but get the feeling that they have a problem with interpreting the cards in front of me and use it to move away from this stumbling block and hope that I don't notice. I then question their empathy and authenticity, instead believing that the ego is at work - along with the dollar signs.
What can be done? If you're the more ballsy type and you've paid for your reading through a shop, then you're well within your rights to request a refund, because of dissatisfaction. On the other hand, if you feel that's too uncomfortable for you to undertake, make a point of not ever returning to that reader. Word of mouth has a way of getting around if many of the same customers aren't satisfied with their desired outcomes.
In saying that, I don't want to go to a reader who doesn't show any degree of empathy towards me, so the occasional sympathetic remark is fine. I make it my business to make the querent comfortable and give fully of my engagement to them. It's their time, and it's also their money. If I'm stuck with how a particular layout of cards may not be giving me what I'm looking for, well, it's no trouble to turn more over to get a clearer picture.
Another problem can be applying pressure on ourselves because it's assumed that we should know everything about the person in front of us and what the cards are telling us. This isn't fair, either, as we should enter into dialogue with the querent. Sometimes, there is that crucial point in the dialogue which allows us to get a clearer picture and the momentum of the reading can continue. I've had to learn this lesson myself, and I'm glad to have learned it. Dialogue allows me to relax, and provides a more authentic reading.
We don't want to blow our money by going to the reader who's going to disappoint us, although sometimes, choosing the right person is a case of trial and error. There are those times when, by going blind and not knowing who the reader is until afterwards, do we find that we're very happy with that choice and will go back, so it's worth the risk if you're happy. I used to do a market stall where I previously lived (and the only time I gave readings back then every year), and one woman would come back every year when she saw that I was there. It was good to know that I came across to this woman as being somebody worth her while enough to see me every year.
Conversely, I have gone back to the same readers over time, because I was happy with how they read for me, happy with their engagement and readiness to enter in dialogue. It proves to me that we're all human, we're not going to know everything and it doesn't matter. It's how we approach the person in front of us which counts, and the more genuine we are, the happier everyone is.
Until next time, Wassail!
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